I went to a really good parenting conference while I was in Atlanta a few years ago. The first thing they talked about was how the idea of "honor" can completely change how your family works and responds to each other. It was a very interesting concept and something that can be easily applied to each family. Anyway, I got to thinking about how you can't just expect your kids to show honor if you aren't living it out yourself, after all actions speak louder than words. The first person you want to show honor to is your husband. In fact, a lot of people say this in their vows: "to honor and cherish you". Honoring others seems to be such a thing of the past, I wondered what does that mean? What does it entail? How do you show this to your husband?
When looking up the definition of honor it said "to show high respect to or be a credit to someone". So I want to show my husband respect. What is respect? Respect is "esteem for or a sense of the worth or excellence of a person". How do we show that we respect our husbands? For some of us, myself included, this is going to take some pride swallowing. Some ideas I've heard are: don't correct him in front of others (but what if he's so wrong!), giving his wishes priority (like if he really likes to come home to a clean house), giving him your undivided attention when he's speaking (you can check your phone in a minute), let him finish his own sentences, don't nag at him to do something. The idea is to start thinking about it in your head. Ask yourself "is this honoring to my husband?" and "What can I do to honor my husband today?" With your kids you can ask them "What can we do to show honor to daddy?" The ideas were small things "He likes to sit in his chair when he gets home in the morning, so lets make sure his chair is clean. We can set his book on the chair. We can set out the stuff for coffee. We can leave a nice note or picture on his chair." The idea is to start getting them to think about others instead of just themselves. How can we make other people happy? But I really think that this is something positive that we need to learn as well. What can you do to make your husband happy today?
You can look at some other ideas here.
Until next time,